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Madge,

I met this guy online via Parship and have been dating him for over a month now. For some reason, I am just not sure about it. What should I do?

Jen, UK

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Jen,

For what you are going through is nothing new. Many people have that anxiety especially going out with someone you met online. It is worthwhile to spend some time before you jump to any conclusion since you have decided to give him a chance. Have you actually met him yet?


Online dating has helped many people throughout the years in ímproving their chances to meet the right person sooner. Nevertheless, virtual life is very different from living in together. Perhaps you should try to meet him up few more occasions to find out more. It is still too early to tell whether or not it will work out. As you may know, it is always 50:50. The rest it is for both of you to work it out together. Spend a week or two to try understanding each other better before you decide to close the door.

Good luck! Keep us posted!

luv,

Madge

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Madge,

Have been following your posts recently. Wonder how you think about dating a married man? 

lovesick, Miami

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I will just shoot straight for now. Being a woman and in and out of relationships, I understand where you came from. Then again, this probably is no new to you – how would you feel if your husband is seeing somebody else during your marriage? If you find it hard to swallow, chances are, she is feeling it now. 


You know my answers to this: Get Out. 

Let me take you through things that you have to take into account:

1. The odds are not in your favor, at all. Why?

2. There are high possibilities he will stay will his family, especially when he has children.

3. We always indulge in all these luvy duvy belief that love only matters between the both of you, in reality, this is not the case. Don’t let the hollywood trick you into this.

4. If you believe in karma, you know it’s not going to do you any justice.

5. Most realistic point, you will have a lot of damage control exercises to do, not only to his children for wrecking up the family, but also your own family.

Plenty of fishes in the sea my dear, get out and get real!

luv,

Madge.

Hi Madonna,

I am a newbie in Online Dating. What’s your take on this?

Tommy, iowa

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Tommy,

Honest answers – it functions like our bulletin board services designed to give people another channel to know each other online. The normal procedures involve is that they get you to fill up really long questionnaires and to create an irresistible profile so that you can be matched with your ideal match.If you are one of those who believes love happens at first sight, it is easier for you to accept online dating concept. 

Generally, they are not costly. Oh well, people pay to reach genuine people just like you, because there are already over millions of daters online today. That perhaps help you to filter out those who are more seriously in pursuing love and happiness. If you want to get yourself started, just check out the list on our right column as they are all FREE to sign up. But having said that, please read all the fine print carefully. Whatever that applies in the real world, please apply them online too. A lot of FREE sites offer women FREE registration to women but not for men or sometimes both. They  may charge you when you try to contact your ideal match. If you are seriously serious about this, it may be worthwhile for you to take your time (during weekend?) to sit through those personality and compatibility tests. (They are painfully long, unfortunately) Before I forget, you can join more than one dating sites.

Other things that you should be wary of is that there are quite number of people who are already committed in relationship, nevertheless still sign up (let’s not bothered by whatever their reasons are), do try to avoid getting into complicated situations. Also, lies and fake pictures are very common among the online dating community.

Remember, rules applied in the real world should be applied online too! Other than that, just be honest!

Always,

Madonna

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Day Zero: She’s THE ONE! God sent.
Day 1: She’s absolutely PERFECT!
Day 2: Oh man… I’m just so lucky to know her!
Day 3: Can’t wait to get to know her more!
Day 4: She’s such an angel!
Day 5: She’s just so sweet to me.
Day 6: Yes, I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
Day 7: How’s she like as a mother?
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Day 8: Can’t get enough of her
Day 9: She’s so fun to be with
Day 10: She needed me
Day 11: I needed her
Day 12: Hmm.. she needs to go shopping again
Day 13: She’s great
Day 14: She wants to be treated like a queen.
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Day 21: Maybe I can try to change her?

So after all the chemistry, sparkles and flying away, reality bites. How can you avoid dating a pure evil bitch – date of hell? Before pouring yourself heavily in the shower of love, try to take day 1 or 2 at least, to understand her a little better. But having said that please don’t confuse a real bitch with someone who’s domineering that has particular reason that she genuinely believes so, they are not the same.

You know you are dating a Bitch, when you feel:

1. you are still holding your torch for someone else, unknowingly. Please do not hold onto her if you are still waiting for the next one to come along, not only it’s NOT right, it is also unfair. You do not want to leave yourself a room for her to bite back!

2. she’s totally SHE and HERSELF only. In other words, in this whole wide world she’s the only one that matters, i.e. how she feels, what she does and who she is. Much as she would love to be treated like a queen, you seriously do not have to put up with this. Guess what, girls like that, they are usually so damn good in finding their victim, the super, duper, ultra great Mr. New Age Sensitive and Nice Guy! At first you thought you should give her all the attention because you are trying to show how much that you love her, thereafter, she’s all that matters only. You will soon find yourself draining and over-taxed by her torrent flow of emotions and herself.

3. you’re no longer in touch with your buddies. Why? Research shows that guys generally have better best friends than girls. If girls can’t find their boyfriends, chances are 10 out of their male best friends would know where they really are compare to girls’. So the bitches will ensure all these avenues are CUT OFF completely so that they really know every minute, every second – where you are. NEVER EVER subscribe to those mobile GPS tracking where she’s always ONE thumb request away from where you are.

4. you are never good enough. You start to feel so ‘small’ about yourself and in everything that you do, you always attract yourself unnecessary criticism and worse still, she NAGs! Sometimes you’re even treated like a trash. She embarrassed you in the public (not in a very funny way) and you can’t get better if she publicly flirt in front of you… oh man, if she’s doing this to you, just leave, will ya? That’s what I would call it – Man Slavery!!

5. your family members no longer say much to you. This is one of the big tale tell signs! To respect your ‘choice’, they do not say much anymore.

So, don’t waste your time on her before the cut gets too deep! She’s NOT your true love, forget about the relationship, it will never last.

GET OUT and GET A LIFE!!

Avoid the Common Mistakes and Start to Stand out from the Crowd!

Next to signing up the Dating Sites, you need to write an online dating profile so that you can date more girls or boys, and hopefully sometimes you can get more play. As Ernest has highlighted before in his e-LoveQuickie – Love’s a Pitch, it is extremely crucial to know what your inner needs are before you start approach your dream match. You and I, we are not new to internet dating sites anymore, we have seen thousands, perhaps millions of online dating profiles for both men and women that are poorly written, in brief, just boring, bad and real bad. So what I am going to do here is to list out what common mistakes that people do when it comes to online dating profiles and of course, we need solutions to that.

If you have time to really do a more thorough research, before you start to fish, it’s worthwhile to understand and analyze the source’s conditions and know what sort of fish you are trying to get – we need to prepare the right hook and the right bait. As we all have one, single purpose – we are looking for our dream match! Without us knowing, there are so many online dating profiles communicate things that you wouldn’t want your target match to think about you. So other than know your inner needs, and know what you want in a woman, you should next tailor your plan and strategy carefully so that it clearly communicates your style:

1. Fun Seeking match: If you are driven by Fun, and have decided to go for Fun driven match, when you write your profile, put your effort in ‘how’ you write it. i.e. write as you are talking, fun things that you’ve come to enjoy most and etc. If you are stuck, what you can do is to go and see what your potential ‘competitors’ are doing to give you a head start!

2. Security Seeking match: To attract Security Seeking idea partner, you may need to flaunt a bit of what you have, i.e. your qualifications, experience and so forth. This is handy.

3. Recognition Seeking match: When you are sure to go for this match, it is probably good to write a bit about your past achievement and depth of exposure. He/she will know it. But, please don’t brag!! that’s a big NO NO!

Before I forget, I will give you some tips, perhaps you have heard it many times, it’s easy to say than have it done!


Quick Profile Tip 1: Study the Profiles

Be sure to login to your favourite dating sites and read what others, perhaps share similiar inner needs with you, see what they are writing and ask yourself, would you get attracted by it? What are the things that they keep you reading/ not reading? Just don’t write things like “I am an easy-going guy” or “happy go lucky guy who likes to have fun…” Come on! Everyone likes to have fun!

Quick Profile Tip 2: Descriptive writing

It maybe good to write things to get people imagine instead of just blurting out facts about yourself. Write something instead that people don’t usually know about you. You are unique, so there must be something that you can write about yourself! For instance if you really like cooking, don’t just writing something that “My friends say I am a good cook.” Who would believe that? Just describe some of the dishes perhaps that are your specialties? Break them down in details, and describe them in details too.

Quick Profile Tip 3: Don’t lie

Never go and brag or write something that is totally not you. If you don’t like people to lie to you, so please don’t do it.

Happy Dating!